I am having my own sort of “March Madness” this month similar to the annual college basketball tournament currently going on. (But no one is betting on me and I haven’t busted anyone’s bracket.)
Just as 64 of the best teams in the country start at the beginning of the tournament in hopes of making it to the Final Four, my search for the perfect Mother of the Groom dress has been an elimination process of 64 dresses , cut down to the Sweet 16, then to the Elite Eight, and finally to the Final Four , with only one dress crowned the winner.
What an exhausting hunt for the dress and what an eye opener it has been for this 50ish woman! I realize what I liked online or on the clothing rack may not have been suitable for me because of my body type or my age.
I looked at so many dresses online, (which I highly recommend to you ladies, because the stores do not carry a large selection of evening gowns).
And another comment, when searching online, you will notice 20 year old models wearing the gown. Perhaps someday the fashion industry will actually use models over the age of 40, slightly thick in the waist , with a larger bust size than 32B, and designed for women over 50.
I visited department stores and bridal boutiques for 2 weeks and tried on 16 dresses, (some looked so bad on me, but would have looked lovely on a woman if she was a size 4, which I’m not.)
The outfit I wore shopping one day required a dressing room selfie because it looked better on me than the 8 dresses that didn’t warrant me to whip out my iphone to snap a photo.
I will share with you the Elite 8 that made the cut to be photographed and sent to my husband while he was on a trip, but I eliminated four of the dresses down to my own Final Four. Some of the dresses will be modeled by a 20 something and myself to show you the comparisons.
Should I warn you now that you should eat before you continue or perhaps grab a glass of wine to enjoy the fashion show?
Rules for the Mother of the Groom Dress as they applied to me:
- The dress cannot be the same color as the Mother of the Bride.
- The dress needs to have the “Danceability Factor” because I dance like it’s 1999.
- Less Cleavage Factor, keep the 50ish girls under control.
- If my exercise regime and diet fail, I will not be wearing spanx, perhaps something stronger like they wore in the Victorian Era?
- A fuller dress that will hide my middle age waistline is the preferred choice, but I don’t want to wear a dress like Anna did when she danced with the King of Siam. She wasn’t doing the Cupid Shuffle back then. (If you click on the link you will see me dancing at my nephew’s wedding to the Cupid Shuffle. I love to dance!)
- No sleeve can be a problem with my arms, now that I’ve taken photos, I see I still have some work to do.
- The dress has to look good with the necklace my son gave me for Mother’s Day.
The Elite Eight:
I was looking for coral/orange or cobalt blue dresses that were the team colors of my son’s college, the University of Florida. (The Gators are playing in the Elite Eight today, just a side note for the basketball references in this post.)
As you can see, the model below wears the dress better, which is why the dress didn’t make it to the Final Four.
The dress below was the only one I liked on the store’s website because it was cobalt blue, but they only had it in mint green for me to try on, which was a good thing I did!
One of my criteria is that the dress continues to look good on me for 12 hours and as I started to photograph myself, the dress started sliding down my arms to my complete horror!
It was a dress size larger, but can you imagine me on the dance floor? I could possibly have a wardrobe malfunction, and my son would never speak to me again.
This dress was too tight in the top and showed more of my cleavage than the other dresses.
This dress was actually a good one, but the color was too close to the bridesmaids dresses and it didn’t make the Final Four because of the color..
The Final Four:
These are my final choices, and I’ve actually narrowed it down to two, because I had called in my own selection committees for these dresses because it takes a village of over 50 year olds to select the perfect dress. Emails were flying on Friday night and the majority voted on two dresses that were also my favorite.
I decided that I will wear navy because I can wear this dress year round and darker colors make me look thinner. I loved how each dress looked on the 20ish models but in reality, they did not look great on me. I don’t want to look frumpy and I don’t want to look fat in the dress either.
50ish Model: Dress #1
50ish Model: Dress #2
50ish Model: Dress #3
50ish Model: Dress #4
So let me ask you a question.
Which one should I wear as the Mother of the Groom?
Do you think your dress will win? The winner will be revealed in June!
Be Fierce today and everyday!